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'Make the Change' - a success

Date: 18 Jun 2008

The 'Make the Change' programme in North Somerset has been hailed a success.

The voluntary scheme, launched in January, is a domestic abuse perpetrators' programme and is for men who are worried that they might be abusive and who want to change their behaviour.

"This innovative programme has generated a lot of interest and is aimed at helping people change their behaviour," commented Cllr Ian Peddlesden, executive member for commmunity services.

Men who are concerned that they are guilty of domestic abuse are encouraged to ask themselves the following questions:

would they treat their boss, mate or next-door-neighbour the same way as they do their partner?
if someone else were treating their daughter, sister or friend the same way as they treat their partner, would they consider it okay or not?
has their partner told them that their behaviour is unreasonable or abusive?
has their partner either left them or threatened to leave them if they don't stop being nasty?
have previous relationships gone to the wall due to their behaviour?
do they long for an open, warm and honest relationship with their partner and/or children?
are they worried that their partner and/or children might be frightened of them?

If they answer NO to either of the first two questions, and YES to any of the others, then this programme is for them!

These are just two of the comments from men who have taken part in the programme:

"The programme has given me the tools I never understood before and I'm understanding my thoughts and beliefs when I was in an abusive relationship with my partner. I now have a better understanding so I am not abusive anymore.
The programme has helped me to better understand myself and to better myself; to be non-abusive to my partner."

"I found the programme to be a big eye-opener, a lot of things that you just take for granted and without any intention is, and can be, very abusive towards your partner. This programme teaches you how to recognise the patterns of behaviour, and how to use the right tools to overcome this abusive behaviour, and then everybody is happy all round."

The programme runs over a 30-week period in Weston-super-Mare and is for any man in North Somerset who is worried he is abusive to his partner and wants to change.

To make a referral contact the Make the Change co-ordinator on 01823 353 456/353 028 or email ruth.mackie@somersetchange.co.uk

For leaflets about the programme or more details contact Louise Branch, Domestic Abuse Co-ordinator on 01275 888 355, louise.branch@n-somerset.gov.uk